The Vision

First ask yourselves, what do you want your child to be?
For example,
i) If you say doctor, it means 'YOU' have decided that the child should be a doctor,
ii) If you say whatever he wants to be, provided he is a good human.

In the first case, you have curbed the freedom of child by deciding what he should become. In the second case, you are not clear about the definition of good human. Allowing your child to decide whatever he wants is a wonderful thought, but you have to be a guiding force in the child's life. Whatever it is, both answers are loop-sided in their own way.

The key is EXPOSURE. The child experiences all kind of activities; left and right brain oriented activities (academics, music, sports, art, etc). Then the next most important is imparting of values and sanskaras. For this, you need to follow so that he follows you.

Now, what do you want your child to be, should be very clearly defined in your own mind. It should be written black and white, in short sentences(positive present tense) along with the picture of your child(integral part of ISP). This is called "THE VISION" for your child. The same short sentences can be spoken to the child in sleep and thus reinforced.

For ex, for who have new born children ( till 3years), you can start like this,

DEAR .....(your baby name)
You are silent like Buddha
You are strong like Hanuman
You are clever as Birbal

In this way, write 30 visions.

Here, you are giving freedom to select whatever the child would like to be. We are not conditioning or limiting the child by setting a boundary. Take a photograph of your child, write down the vision in 2-3 inches of letter size and decorate it.

For pregnant ladies, do write the same. Keep your hand on the stomach and read loudly the vision daily for 3-4 times and the same, father also should do.

Now why is this vision important? Vision is for everyone and longterm. Suppose, nenu meeku oka seed icchanu. Elaa describe chestaaru? Smooth/rough/brown color, apple/guava/...seed, oval/round/..., pointed, elongate, so on avunaa. But, can you vision this seed giving 'n' number of trees. That's why we need to write vision to your child.
Oka example cheptaanu. Suppose, your child tells you nenu richshaw pull chestaanu peddayyaka. Meeremantaaru. Just think. Ledu nuvvu peddayyaka doctor avvali, engineer,...so on ani chepthaaru. And, will also tell baaga chadavakapothe rickshaw pull chestaru ani. Avunaa? But, can you imagine one mother told, sarey raa, you pull the rickshaw. Do you know how great the mother is, to tell. Enti surprise naa, great annanu ani. Emanindo telusaa aa mother. She said tappakundaa nuvvu pull chedduvu. Aa Sri Krishnudu anthati vaade radhasarathiga vundi direstion chupinchadu lokaniki. Nuvvu kuda alaage chupistaavu direction ani. She is none other than Swamy Vivekananda's mother. She had a vision like that. And, the child became that.
Jijabai conceive ayinappudu cheppedi, moghulsni antam cheyyali. What did Shivaji Maharaj do?

Conceive ayyina vaallaki inka manchi chance ippudu. You are called as abhimanyu group. Manam edi chepithe vallu ala absorb chestaaru(baby). You can give a very good vision.

Ila enduku chepthunnanu ante, manaki evaraina cheppara ivanni. Ippudu manam kotthagaa cheyataaniki anukovacchu. Manam sarigga peragaledaa. Manam manchivaallam kaada. Manaki values levaa. Right, ee doubt vundavacchu. But, earlier we had joint families. Ippudu nuclear families. Andaru vundatam valla, we imbibe values easily and ippudu only mom and dad, who don't have much time. What will the child imbibe? Manaki teliyadu, mana parents manaki kuda vision icchevaaru. Ila kaadanukondi, but gurthundaa, padukovataaniki laali paatalu paadevaaru. Ex hindi lodi, chanda he thu, suraj he thu,... ani. What is that then? Aren't we giving him vision that you are like sun, moon ani. Enno stories cheppevaru. And, we used to imbibe values.

How many of you sing those lullabies to your child? Mana poorvam, aa lullabies lo enno values vunnayi, vachinaa enthamandi paaduthaaru? Normal ga oka infant edisthe emi chesthaaru meeru. Just think before proceeding further. Emantaamu, enduku edusthunnavi bujji edavaku. Emaindi kanna, edavaku edavaku and all that, isn't it? What you want the child to do adi chepparaa? Edavaku. Vaadiki vinipinchindi enti? edavaku. Before explaining this, close your eyes and try to imagine what I'll say now. " DONT SEE BLUE COLOUR ". Entamandi blue chusaaru? Most of you would kada. Mari meeru baby ki edavaku ani cheppinappudu vaademi chesthaadu, edusthaadu, likewise, manam pillaliki adi cheyyadu, idi cheyyadu antaamu kada, they will try to do that ONLY. Manam cheppinde kada vallu chesedi(this part I will tell when I talk about SAY and Do).

So, manam etuvanti vision isthaamo vallu ala manifest avutaaru. We are just giving him direction to go and at the same time we are not limiting him.

Now coming to, HOW TO WRITE VISION.

Step 1 :
Take a photograph of your child or the type of baby you want for expecting mothers.

Step 2 :
Select 10-12 points from the list of values CHECKED, which you feel are highest priorities, ante for both of you (now checked ani enduku annanante, manam value and idol raastamu kada)
Ex., you are strong like HANUMAN... ilaa.
Ikkada strong is value and Hanuman is idol. Idol eppudu thappu vundakudadu, as it gives direction. Hitler strong kaada, Osama Bin Laden strong kaada? So, writing the correct idol is very important. Suppose, visionary like Narayan Murthy anavacchu. Tomorrow the child may get chance to see him and all. A live example before him.

Step 3 :
Write down these ponts in letter size of 2-3inch and decorate beautifully using your creativity.

Step 4 :
if you have more children, write separate vision and read to them daily and pregnant vaallu, read by keeping your hand on the stomach. Read twice.

Once you are... like ayyinaaka..., you can take individual A4/A3 paper write the values replacing YOU with I.

Ex, I am....... like........
You can make a book binded and read it to them daily, below 2-3 yrs vaallaki.
Elaa ante, write value first then second page lo bomma related, malli next page lo next value and again next page lo bomma related gaa (may be you can keep the idol photo or your child exhibiting that quality). Alaa chesi, oka book la cheyyandi. Roju annam pettetappudu, you show it.

Next one, above 3 years, replace I with WE.
Ex, We are ........ like ........
Ila cheyyadam valla, you are identifying the scope from YOU to WE. Self to all ani, like nenu, manam, anadaramu ane feeling ivvali.

Now, start writing values and respective idols.